I had to peel my five-year-old off the floor last week when she was a-screamin' and a-hollerin' because she was "mad at God."
Apparently, she had gone into our bedroom, rolled out the prayer mat and asked God for a swimming pool in our backyard.
Then when she peeked outside and there was no pool (or signs of its imminent arrival), she threw a huge fit of disappointment.
It was clearly time to school her in the dynamics of dua (Arabic term for supplication to God).
"And your Lord says, 'Call upon me, I will answer your prayer.'" (Quran 40:6)
God urges us to constantly go to Him for all our needs, wants and fixes to problems. He loves for us to be humble, realize our neediness and willfully depend on Him as the Ultimate Source for everything, whether material or spiritual.
God urges us to constantly go to Him for all our needs, wants and fixes to problems. He loves for us to be humble, realize our neediness and willfully depend on Him as the Ultimate Source for everything, whether material or spiritual.
He draws our attention to Asiya, the wife of Pharoah and one of the four pefect women of all times. Despite all the wealth, power and status in the world, she remains humble throughout her life, supplicating to God for "nearness to Thee" until her last breath.
Indeed, God always responds to our legitimate requests though we may not realize it. He either answers our prayers in this world, applies them to avert impending problems or saves the rewards for the Hereafter.
Some ettiquettes of supplication:
- Expect miracles. "It's true that you can't unscramble eggs," says scholar Usama Abdul-Ghani. "But God can take scrambled eggs and make a great omelette."
- Aim for the stars. Prophet Muhammad (S) encouraged us to think big in the way of a female follower of Prophet Moses (foster son of Asiya). When Moses approached this woman for some information, she demanded he first ask God to give her the same station as him in heaven. He did and her wish was granted.
- Include all, big and small. God said: "O Moses! Ask me for everything, even the mending of your shoelace."
Of course, supplications to God must be accompanied by obedience to Him and full-force efforts to "create the grounds for the prayers to be answered," says Abdul-Ghani.
Invocations for peace and justice in this world, for example, must be matched by struggle against oppression. Activist and poet Allama Iqbal expresses this tenet beautifully in "A Child's Prayer." Here's an excerpt (translated from Urdu):
"My longing comes to my lips as a supplication of mine,
O God, may like the candle be the life of mine,
May the world's darkness disappear through the life of mine,
May every place light up with the sparkling life of mine."
At the end of the day, says Abdul-Ghani, we must trust in God's decree and timing while still expecting our request to be "at the door."
I held off on sharing that last bit with my daughter, though. If she decided to literally check the door, we'd be back to square one.